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We Have to Love More, Hate Less. We Got to Listen More and Talk Less. (7/12/19)
John Lande

A quick thought on what we can learn from women's soccer.

Why Retainers are Important to the Mediation Process (7/12/19)
Laurie Israel

For most mediations, having the financial relationship between the mediator and the clients prepaid through a retainer can be a very strong impetus towards making the mediation process stronger and more effective.

What Happens in the Mediation Room? (7/12/19)
Joy Rosenthal

I ask both parties to come in for an introductory meeting when they inquire about divorce mediation.

The Divorce Process: Mediation Saves Money, Time and Trauma (7/12/19)
Stuart Watson

The divorce process has significant impacts on the lives of the spouses and their families depending on how they go through the divorce. This article outlines how divorce mediation can save families money and time, and reduce trauma when compared to a traditional, litigated divorce process.

Domestic Violence Theories and Mediation (7/05/19)
Georg Stratemeyer

This article proposes that the family mediation process formalizes the separation, as partners are encouraged to try to work out how to co-parent their children, and increases the risk for victims of domestic violence.

Marriage and Divorce Under The Tax Cuts and Jobs Act of 2017 (7/05/19)
Jay Safier

As a former practicing CPA, who is now a professional mediator, I pose the following question: What has the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act done to help couples improve the statistics regarding the institution of marriage and make the emotional issues of divorce less stressful?

Mediation Field Mourns the Loss of Family Mediation Pioneer Lawrence D. Gaughan (6/28/19)
Michael Aurit

It is with deep sadness that we learned this week about the passing of Lawrence D. Gaughan, a pioneer professional family mediator.

Mediating Custody in Highly Contested Divorce Cases (6/27/19)
Alfred Ramos

Child custody is often the most contentious aspect of divorce proceedings.

How Forgiveness Benefits You After The Divorce (6/24/19)
Leyla Balakhane

Everyone wants to be right, but oftentimes, holding onto one’s pride tears the relationship apart.

3 Things To Try If You Think Your Spouse Is Contemplating Divorce (6/24/19)
Ann Cerney

How are we supposed to know, 100%, that our marriage, or significant relationship, is secure?

Thinking of Divorce? There are More Ways to Divorce Than You May Think (6/24/19)
Lori Frio-Walker

Divorce and custody mediation creates a safe, cooperative setting for the parties to discuss emotional and substantive issues and engage in collaborative problem-solving.

My Divorce is Over… Now What? (6/24/19)
Denise French

Whether your divorce was a high conflict or fairly co-operative experience, you will cross the finish line and look up at some point wondering what the next step is.

Ascending the Status of Mediation - Supporting the National Mediation Policy Act (6/17/19)
Donald T. Saposnek, Michael Aurit

The Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM) recently became the first major organization to endorse The National Mediation Policy Act, a seminal national effort to improve the sanity of discourse in our country.

Children First in Your Divorce (6/14/19)
Dr. Lynne C. Halem

How to mediate in the best interests of the children.

Reclaiming Who You Are Post-Divorce (6/14/19)
Melissa Adkins

It took me a long time to accept that the only thing worse than my fear of my own emptiness, was the emptiness of my bottomed-out relationship with my husband of nearly 12 years.

Educating the Next Generation in Resolving Social Media Disputes (6/10/19)
Gregg Relyea

Educating the next generation about conflict resolution skills--early in life--is essential on many levels.

New Interview with Don Saposnek - The Future of Mediation and Negotiation in Our Culture, Politics and Society (6/07/19)
Donald T. Saposnek

This is a new interview with Don Saposnek, long-time leader in the field of divorce mediation and best supporting the interests of children in divorce, by Robert Benjamin as part of Mediate's new "The Future of Mediation and Negotiation in Our Culture, Politics and Society" video series.

Children and Teenagers: When their right to be heard challenges us as conflict resolvers (6/06/19)
Maria Eugenia Sole, Maria Paola Felibert

One of the biggest challenges for us as conflict resolvers is to help parents recognize their children’s vital role not only in the family system, but also in society.

Hold Your Grudges! (6/06/19)
Joy Rosenthal

Are grudges useful in negotiation?

Should I Get a Divorce? A Mediator’s Approach (6/06/19)
Stuart Watson

When one or both people in a marriage or long-term committed relationship are struggling with the question “Should I get a Divorce?”, Family Mediation can be an ideal process for the couple to have some difficult discussions and make a fully informed decision about next steps in their relationship.

How to Explain Divorce to Your Children (6/06/19)
Leyla Balakhane

When creating a plan in which you will explain your divorce, it is best to keep certain guidelines in mind.

Divorce Done Differently! (6/06/19)
Denise French

As soon as you begin to contemplate divorce, the nauseating, panic-attack-inducing realization of losing half of your net worth kicks in and you find yourself wondering if it’s even worth it to consider leaving if you’re just going to end up broke and starving.

Comparing Mediation Websites (5/24/19)
Jim Melamed

According to brand new 5/22/19 data from, is most visited and most linked mediation website, by far!

Strides in Court Annexed Mediation in Kenya (5/23/19)
Sarah Ater

This article discusses the progress of Court Annexed Mediation in Kenya since its inception three years ago. It also explains some of the steps taken to address the challenges faced.

When Someone You Love Disappears on You (5/18/19)
Meredith Richardson

How can you help clients when the other party disappears?

The Psychology of Conflict and the Art of Compassion (5/17/19)
Debra Dupree

This article is designed to shift how we manage people in emotionally intense situations.

APFM, NAFCM, MBB & ACR Sponsor National Mediation Policy Act! (5/17/19)

The APFM, NAFCM, MBB & ACR have joined's groundbreaking efforts to set America on a better path by sponsoring the "National Mediation Policy Act" (NMPA). The Act declares a national policy favoring voluntary mediation over disputes being litigated, remaining unresolved or resulting in violence.

The Decision to Divorce: A Mediator’s Role (5/17/19)
Stuart Watson

While mediation is well-known as a successful and affordable method for couples to negotiate and settle a divorce or separation, mediation can also be an effective process for helping a couple make the decision to divorce.

8 Things To Consider When Communicating With Your Ex (5/10/19)
Leyla Balakhane

Divorce taints the line of communication between couples, as the multitude of emotions circulating between them makes it toughto remain civil.

What Is Divorce Mediation and Why Might it Be Good for You? (5/10/19)
Lori Frio-Walker

Divorce and custody mediation creates a safe, cooperative setting for participants to discuss emotional and substantive issues and engage in collaborative problem-solving. Participants open lines of communication, gain clarity and a better understanding of their own and each other's interests.

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