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Why is Gray Divorce Becoming Increasingly Common? (11/22/21)
Roseann Vanella

A “gray divorce” occurs when a senior couple ends their marriage after years or decades of togetherness.

Moving from Elder Frustration to Family Redemption: Book Review (11/22/21)
Nicole Lance

Provide insight about the developmental phase of elders, for the purpose of closing the communication gap and improving outcomes. Mediators can play a unique role by translating insights about elders’ developmental stage into actionable outcomes for everyone.

Mediating Divisive Topics (11/12/21)
Felicia Staub

In recent years, the divisions in this country have become increasingly polarized. People’s opinions have become more and more extreme to the point where we don’t tolerate anyone with different opinions from ours.

5 Questions to Ask Your Potential Family Mediator (11/12/21)
Ben Coltrin

This article addresses five important questions parents should ask a family mediator before hiring them. These questions could help parents find the right professional to guide them toward an agreement.

What Makes Someone Ask for a Divorce (11/07/21)
Natalie Maximets

“What makes someone leave one partner for another? Or what forces someone to ask about divorce?” These are the most common questions asked on different divorce blogs and forums.

Social Security Benefits and Divorce (11/05/21)
Mary Salisbury

Social Security benefit rules are complex and confusing, and even more so when you get a divorce.

Book Review of Evolution of a Field: Personal Histories in Conflict Resolution (10/21/21)
Donald T. Saposnek

This book review of Evolution of a Field: Personal Histories in Conflict Resolution, co-edited by Howard Gadlin and Nancy A. Welsh, presents an overview, with snippets of personal and autobiographical material, of this penetrating collection that comprises the “personal stories” of 23 leading practitioners and scholars in the field of conflict resolution.

Top 5 Co-parenting Apps for Mediation (10/21/21)
Ben Coltrin

A good co-parenting app helps parents feel focused and organized heading into mediation. Here are the best co-parenting apps so you can choose the right one for your family.

Working with Financial Neutrals (10/18/21)
Joy Rosenthal

One of the hardest problems that a divorcing couple may face is how to divide up marital property.

Domestic Violence and Family Mediation (10/14/21)
Marian Grande

Domestic violence is a prevalent problem in Canada. Unfortunately, family violence is a genuine reality for many families.

Do You Love Yourself Enough So No One Dares to Hurt You? (10/14/21)
Veera Mahajan

This article is a mantra for those who are navigating difficult conflicts.

Strathclyde Mediation Clinic: A decade of dedication to mediation in Scotland (10/11/21)
Charlie Irvine

The Mediation Clinic attached to the University of Strathclyde (“The Mediation Clinic”) in Glasgow, Scotland, recently won the ‘Community Contribution Award’ at the Scottish Legal Awards 2021. This is an article discussing the program.

“My Story” Featuring Cristina Pereyra-Alvarez, Retired Judge, 11th Judicial Circuit, Florida (10/01/21)
Cristina Pereyra-Alvarez

When asked what advice she has for the next generation of ADR professionals, Mrs. Pereyra-Alvarez says, "Always go in with an open mind. Always believe that you are going to resolve the case, no matter what." This is a biography of her career path.

Divorce Done Differently! (9/27/21)
Denise French

As soon as you begin to contemplate divorce, the nauseating, panic-attack-inducing realization of losing half of your net worth kicks in and you find yourself wondering if it’s even worth it to consider leaving if you’re just going to end up broke and starving. Mediation may not even be an option in your mind, but it should be. Adopts Online Mediation Practice and Ethical Standards (9/21/21)
Colin Rule

One of the Primary Recommendations of the Task Force on Online Mediation is to update mediation practice and ethical standards to fully embrace online mediation. In response, has now formally adopted the Task Force's Recommended Practice Standards for Online Mediation effective January 1. 2022.

Paths Forward for Online Mediation - Committee Reports, Recommendations & Resources (9/19/21)
Forrest (Woody) Mosten

Here are Committee Reports, Recommendations and Resources from the Online Mediation Task Force Final Report.

Preparing and Paying for QDROs in Divorce (9/17/21)
Mary Salisbury

The responsibilities of a plan administrator include reviewing QDROs or DROs and then distributing the funds to the non-plan participant spouse once they have approved the order--which become difficult in a separation.

Helicopter Conflict (9/13/21)
Kathleen Kauth

What do helicopter parents do best? They hover.

Who Wears the Pants in Your Family? (9/07/21)
Joy Rosenthal

So much has changed! When I was growing up, the expectation for middle-class marriages (which were always between women and men) was that it was the man’s job to earn enough money to support the family, and it was the woman’s job was to have children and to contribute to the economy by spending money.

Why I Don’t Caucus (8/30/21)
Joy Rosenthal

One of the things to think about when you are looking for a divorce mediator is whether they will meet with both of you together or will meet with you each separately.

ADA Mediation Refresher (8/19/21)
Judith Cohen

I think it might be time for a refresher on ADA Mediation, * a topic I have written and trained on frequently – but not for a while now.

The Significance of Nonverbal Communication in Mediation and Arbitration (8/13/21)
Joan Kessler

Nonverbal communication may impact participants’ thoughts and emotions in a mediation or arbitration and should be considered when evaluating communication feedback during these sessions.

3 Ways Parents Can Help Their Kids Adjust (8/13/21)
Jane McWilliams

As parents, we try to protect our kids from undue stress. But the reality is that life is inherently stressful. While we may not be able to protect our kids from all stress we can help them learn to cope and adjust.

Beyond Mediation: The Collaborative Practice Experience (8/11/21)
Brian Galbraith

Collaborative Practice is a process to resolve family law conflict without the use of the court. Each person has their own attorney, but should the matter go to court, the attorneys are prohibited from participating in the court process. This changes everything. Instead of gearing up for litigation the attorneys becoming settlement specialists. Everyone has a vested interest in assisting the clients reach an agreement.

Multi-Jurisdictional Issues in Online Mediation (8/11/21)
Melissa Kucinski

With an increase in remote mediation, many mediators are managing caseloads that have a multi-jurisdictional element (at times, unintentionally). This paper will define what issues may arise in a multi-jurisdictional mediation process, and focus on the necessary training elements to handle these multi-jurisdictional implications.

Learning from Every Mediation (8/10/21)
Laurie Israel

I have been mediating for over twenty-five years. During this time, I have had many different experiences with clients, including the good and the bad.

The Five Divorces (8/09/21)
Joy Rosenthal

Lonnie and Chris got married right out of college.¹ They had a lot of ups and downs, and over time, they grew apart. After 20 years, they decided to divorce.

Bring More Peace Into Your Life with Jeremy Pollack – Tip 22: Manage Your Emotions (8/09/21)
Jeremy Pollack

This is an extremely important topic to consider when thinking about how to effectively engage in conflict resolution, especially when dealing with escalated situations. When considering how to engage in emotional self-regulation, it is crucial to first recognize our triggers. Asking ourselves, “What kinds of situations tend to trigger me?” is one way of doing this.

Online Mediation Training Task Force Family / Elder Committee Report (8/02/21)
Susan Guthrie

The Family and Elder Committee was initially tasked with Considering the Following Questions: 1) How can family and elder mediation training be improved to embrace online mediation; and 2) How can family and elder mediation training best be offered online, for basic training, advanced training, and ongoing continuing education?

The Long Term Psychological Effects of Divorce on Children (7/30/21)
Natalie Maximets

Growing up is complicated enough on its own. Having parents' divorce can make it even harder. To avoid the psychological effects of divorce on children, parents should go through the process gracefully.

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